Showing posts with label goals. Show all posts
Showing posts with label goals. Show all posts

Sunday, January 3, 2010

Achieving an intended result

I don't consider myself a physically active person.  My interests don't include going to the gym, running, lifting weights, or getting sweaty period.  However, last year when I was training (on my own) for my first 5k I felt invigorated and alive for the first time in years.  I remarked several times to several different people, "I hate running".  "I never liked it when I was young and I still don't". 

What I did like was the sense of accomplishment I got from doing it.  I simply believed I could do it and when I turned down the last street and glimpsed the finish line the world fell aside and all I felt was pride.  I was so proud of myself, not in the act of running itself but in what I believed I could accomplish and what I ended up mastering. 

That feeling is called, self-efficacy (ef-fi-ca-cy). 

Self-efficacy as wikipedia states, has been described as the belief that one is capable of performing in a certain manner to attain certain goals, the sense of belief that one’s actions have an effect on the environment, a sense of a person’s competence within a specific framework, focusing on the person’s assessment of their abilities to perform specific tasks in relation to goals and standards rather than in comparison with others’ capabilities.

Unlike efficacy, which is the power to produce an effect--in essence, competence--self-efficacy is the belief (whether or not accurate) that one has the power to produce that effect by completing a given task or activity related to that competency.

Darren has said that I posses the ability to accomplish whatever I set my mind to.  He has even mentioned that he aspires to that and will often follow suit if he sees me gearing up for another accomplishment.

Self-efficacy is an amazing thing.  I never even knew such a term existed until today.  I found myself over at Science Daily and found myself agreeing and nodding my head as I read the article.

The article itself touches mainly on the physical aspect of accomplishing goals.
"Previous studies have shown that increases in physical activity also increase self-efficacy. The effect is almost immediate, McAuley said."

The focus of the actual study is how "Mastery of Physical Goals Lessens Disease-Related Depression and Fatigue". 

I most definitely agree that accomplishing goals gives you self-efficacy and lessens depression and fatigue. I also believe it keeps you coming back for more. I'm already gearing up for this spring's training and will find myself running a 5k and hopefully a 10k by the end of the year.

I don't think self-efficacy is achieved only by physical acts though. I also think that self-efficacy can be achieved by a mere act of self-betterment, learning a new skill or accomplishing a goal.  I think you would achieve it just the same by setting a goal to be a better listener and having someone tell you that you really are.

I search for self-efficacy, now that I have a term for it, like it's an addiction and I'm looking for my next fix. 

What's important for me to remember as I continue to master my goals and lessens is to:
  •   have low expectations
  •   give myself an expandable time frame/pace myself
  •   to pat myself on the back along the way
  •   allow for setbacks.  
  •   relish in the moment of self-efficacy for it is mine and mine alone
  •   remember that I am awesome and totally, totally capable of accomplishing anything I desire 

I have the strength and courage to believe in myself.  I have the power to do so. It's a win-win situation.

Thursday, December 31, 2009

365 list

The 365 List

I've never really done "resolutions". I like the idea of this 365 list. I admit, when I first stumbled upon it I thought I was about to read a list of 365 things a random person had listed out to work on over the coming year. I was pleasantly surprised to find this instead. An idea that I think is not only motivational and inspirational but set up in a way that allows your goals to be achievable.

3 things to work on this year
  1. Organizing the entire house and keeping it that way.  We have a lot of things to get rid of donate
  2. Giving Darren more attention, hugs, kisses, praise, appreciation, touches, love
  3. I need to treat my camera as I do my cell phone.  Taking it everywhere I go and using it on daily basis.
6 Things I want to do this year
  1. Take our 1st annual summer vacation.
  2. Run 2 5k's or 1 5k and 1 10k.
  3. Photograph, Photograph, Photograph
  4. Get additional tattoos to near completion of my left arm shoulder/chest work of art.
  5. Go to Missouri to visit my friend Angie. (this will be news to her I haven't talked to her in way too long)
  6. Start work on a biography writing project I've been meaning to do for two years now. 
5 Things to get rid of this year
  1. Migraines - even if it means taking daily medication. I admit my defeat and seek relief.
  2. Anything bad with my teeth. This is the year I will have any and all teeth related things completed. And then maybe as a treat and a motivational tool - teeth whitening.
  3. Our high mortgage payment.
  4. Our oven
  5. Our old decrepit hot water tank

Wishing everyone a safe, happy and healthy 2010.  May you accomplish your goals, aspire to betterment and hold your loved ones nice and tight.  

"We will open the book.  Its pages are blank.  We are going to put words on them ourselves.  The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day."  
~Edith Lovejoy Pierce

Monday, December 28, 2009

My Life List


It's almost the beginning of a new year.  A new year to strive to be my best, to do things I've always dreamed of, to live life to the fullest, not sweat the small stuff and to love like I won't be here tomorrow.
I've been updating my life list.  Do you have one?  It's an amazing tool that keeps me focused on the things I dream of.  It's so easy to forget, overlook and discard things I hope to do, see, and be.   With a life list I always have something to refer to, to see how far I've come and to be reminded that my life is Mine.
I highly recommend making a life list if you don't already have one.  It's a great way to gain perspective, inspiration and direction.

My Life List
Kerri Kwiatkowski
Created October 2007



  1. Have another child (August 12, 2008)
  2. Learn to play the piano, well
  3. Learn to play my violin
  4. Write a short story or stories
  5. See something I have written, published
  6. Take some photographs, enlarge them and hang them in our home
  7. See the Grand Canyon - take a helicopter ride over it
  8. Visit Hawaii
  9. Visit Alaska
  10. Learn how to shoot a hand gun; nail a bulls-eye
  11. Go to Disneyworld with my family
  12. Renew my marriage vows to Darren with my children present
  13. Kiss my husband in the rain; more then once
  14. Create a recipe that wins a prize
  15. Plant beautiful flower gardens
  16. Learn how to change a tire
  17. Learn how to cook on the grill
  18. Take a second honeymoon
  19. Attend at least one major sporting event
  20. Go to a talk show and be an audience member
  21. Plant a tree
  22. Plant rose bushes in our yard
  23. Make a personal mission statement; live by it
  24. Get passionate about a cause; support it
  25. Drive a convertible along the California coast
  26. Accept myself
  27. Go to Vegas
  28. Get in shape; remain active for my children
  29. Experiment with paint and canvas
  30. Stay debt free; no high balances on credit cards
  31. Spend New Years Eve in an exotic location
  32. Invest money; DO NOT TOUCH IT
  33. Get a passport
  34. Volunteer
  35. Develop a regular, series, meditation routine
  36. Take a scenic overnight train ride
  37. Develop a habit of gratitude – no complaining for 21 consecutive days
  38. Make a date day/night with each of my sons, once a month
  39. Take a trip with my Mom
  40. Take a trip with my sisters
  41. Write a children’s book
  42. If I have a daughter, volunteer as a leader for girl scouts should my daughter join
  43. Go on actual family vacations, if not once a year, once every two years
  44. Take a child CPR class
  45. Buy a pool
  46. Develop an interest in wine  Fall 2008
  47. Meet and become friends with other Moms Spring 2009
  48. Visit Montana with my husband to support his dream to live there someday
  49. Write a living will

  50. Add some fur babies to our family January and May 2009
  51. Show my parents more respect
  52. Strengthen my relationship with Darren’s Mom
  53. Blog for 30 consecutive days November 2009
  54. Run a 5k  August 8, 2009
  55. Run a 10k
  56. Rent a house or cabin and go on vacation with friends (who also have kids)
  57. Get my sun Tattoo August 3, 2009
  58. Get tattoo work done on left arm
  59. Take my boys to see the ocean
  60. Once the boys are grown - rent a condo or an apartment in a booming city - where Darren and I can walk to everything and enjoy city life since we pretty much only know country life
  61. Learn to swing dance
  62. Get 50 people to follow my blog March 5, 2010
  63. See Riverdance
  64. Get season tickets to R.P.O (Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra)
  65. Go on a ghost hunt
  66. Own a "spiffy" golf cart
  67. Win a photography contest
  68. Visit and tour Frank Lloyd Wright's Fallingwater house in PA (www.fallingwater.org)